Clergy Sexual Abuse includes a range of illegal and heinous behaviors frequently perpetrated against children and tweens by predatory priests or other church members involving sexual abuse of varying amounts. The sexual assault may be a one-off, non-consensual scroll barevent or it may involve several acts within a continuing interaction. For
abused by priest , a continuing “trusting” interaction with a young child created by the predatory behavior of a clergy associate, cloaked by the trust and respect provided to a member of the clergy, leading to non-consensual sexual assault acts of molestation.
In nearly all alleged Priest or Clergy Sexual Abuse scenarios, the failure by the Clergy member’s superior to fully, adequately and immediately report the crime to police and other authorities, or its further failure to research, cope with and deal fully with the occurrence amplifies the effects on the abuse survivor, the community and possibly others. Current Clergy Sexual Assault cases covered in the media highlight these short-comings, that includes “pass-the-trash” scenarios when the perpetrator commonly a priest in the Catholic Church, is quietly transferred from one parish to another only to continue his predatory, criminal behavior on an innocent parish community.
Priest and Clergy Sexual Assault and Retribution
Not a day goes by without a news headline coverage regarding sexual assault and molestation of children by pedophile clergy, or the aftermath of the abuse on the victims and their families. If you are a victim of sexual abuse from a priest or other church member, these reports are likely to act as an echo chamber, reverberating the horror, shame, guilt and various unwelcome feelings hurting your well-being. Encouraged by the societal movement and other channels that encourage victims to reveal the assault they suffered, survivors of assault are more frequently turning to the legal system to compensate them for the lifetime harm and injury they have suffered.
If you are a victim of abuse perpetrated by a member of the clergy, the impact of the abuse on your life and core belief system can be immeasurable. Nonetheless, holding the responsible priest and institutions accountable for their crimes and indifference can provide a measure of justice and recompense to abuse victims. Commonly, survivors can assert their legal rights in confidential mediation thereby avoiding the need for litigation. However, if litigation is necessary, a motion might be filed where the survivor can remain anonymous.
Abusive Behavior
All abusers, to varying amounts, use predatory methods which are generally referred to as grooming, targeting a possible abuse victim. Following is a list of grooming behaviors used by predators who are in a job of authority relative to the subordinate young child.
Grooming
Grooming is a significant piece of a predator’s strategy. In a church setting, the priest is held as God’s representative. Within this setting, the predator often works closely with small numbers of children, understanding each child’s needs, vulnerabilities and circumstances. Once a target is identified, these vulnerabilities – such as tumultuous family setting, loneliness, low self-esteem, emotional neediness, attention-seeking – might be systematically leveraged in the following ways:
Trust
An assaulter will initially work to gain the child’s trust. This step is most difficult to notice as church communities are frequently tight-knit and personal relation with clergy is commonplace. Here, the priest can pretend genuine interest in the child’s wellbeing and development – both emotional and religious.
Reliance
As a predator creates a trusting relationship with the potential child-victim and oftentimes their family, the child will start to rely more and more on the predator for any need it is that the priest is exploiting and fulfilling. The victim may devote increased time with the predator, feeling more comfortable with the relationship and relying on its stability and security. In addition to attention and affection, the possible target may receive presents from the priest, including valuable, intangible gifts like blessings and special recognition.
Isolation
As the grooming progresses, the predator might work to isolate the potential victim. This could result in single counseling meetings, meals or other forms of one-on-one isolated encounters.
Sexualization
The predator may begin to de-sensitize the child from reacting negatively to touching, caressing and other behaviors that lead to sexual interaction. This might start with breaking the physical-touch barrier, or verbally, with suggestive messages to gauge the victim’s response to the progression. This will escalate until the relationship advances to one of a physical, sexual nature.
Maintenance
Once the sexual relationship is established, the predator will work to maintain control over the child and the continued interaction. The predator may likely want to manipulate the victim by continuing to make the victim feel special and worthy. The predator will keep exploiting the target by whatever methods necessary to maintain the inappropriate physical relationship.
Impact on Clergy Abuse Survivors
The effect of childhood abuse on the victim can be overwhelming and life-altering. Several priest abuse survivors suffer from lifelong effects of the abuse including depression, disturbed sleeping, anxiety, post-traumatic stress, low self-esteem, suicidal thoughts, substance abuse and eating patterns, and problems establishing and maintaining vibrant relationships. Individualized therapy and support groups can assist survivors overcome these effects.
Legally, a victim of Priest Sexual Abuse can recover financial compensation from the predator and, more commonly, from the religious organization for its failure to shield the victim from the assault, as well as failures or deficiencies in its method of reviewing and resolving to reports of assault. If you are a victim of Priest or Clergy Sexual Abuse and would like to confidentially discuss your situation and your legal options, we are ready to talk with you.